# I need to hear Him say “Well Done”
By [Darren](http://darrencalhoun.com/author/darrencalhoun/ “Darren”)
Tuesday, July 8th, 2008
Wow oh wow… this has been a hugely challenging day for me. I’ve got a lot more thinking and reflecting to do about what drives me in life. My title for this post is a tiny bit of what it centers around… me having a need that I didn’t realize before… my life shows I’ve sought out that ‘well done’ (acceptance, validation) in all kinds of places… and I’m realizing that in this particular moment, Matthew 3:17 is where I’ll hear it. That’s where Jesus is being baptized and God speaks from heaven and says “This is my son, whom I love, with Him I am well pleased” – God is speaking to THE Son in this scripture, but we are also the sons and daughters of God… adopted in to the family. More than anything I just need to know that I belong to Him, He loves me, and is pleased with me…
This is so special to me because God said this *BEFORE* Jesus had done *any* miracles or even been tempted in the desert! God didn’t say it based on Jesus’ *performance* thus far. I’m realizing that my struggle is seated there… in the *performance* mode of trying to do so much (often too much) unconsciously in hopes of being rewarded with a ‘well done’ from people. However the reality is that God knew me before I was born and called me for his purpose.
I don’t know if all this is making sense, but I’m being renewed in my thinking on a lot of stuff and it’s kinda heavy right now. I’ve had a long battle for freedom in some areas and after 10 years of struggle come to realize some things that aren’t so pleasant, fun, or easy to manage.
I do way too much. I’m working on it, and with this latest realization I need to really look at why I’m so dang busy — what am I really looking for in all that I do.
Ok… I’m being majorly reflective here…but that’s what I tend to do…
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I will be writing more on this as my journey continues.
Love
Darren
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Categories : Thoughts and Reflections
Tags : acceptance, Matthew 3, struggles, validation, Well Done
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