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		<title>I need to hear Him say &#8220;Well Done&#8221;</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Wow oh wow&#8230;  this has been a hugely challenging day for me.  I&#8217;ve got a lot more thinking and reflecting to do about what drives me in life.  My title for this post is a tiny bit of what it centers around&#8230; me having a need that I didn&#8217;t realize before&#8230; my life shows I&#8217;ve [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow oh wow&#8230;  this has been a hugely challenging day for me.  I&#8217;ve got a lot more thinking and reflecting to do about what drives me in life.  My title for this post is a tiny bit of what it centers around&#8230; me having a need that I didn&#8217;t realize before&#8230; my life shows I&#8217;ve sought out that &#8216;well done&#8217; (acceptance, validation) in all kinds of places&#8230; and I&#8217;m realizing that in this particular moment, <a href="http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%203:16-17;&amp;version=31;" target="_blank">Matthew 3:17</a> is where I&#8217;ll hear it.  That&#8217;s where Jesus is being baptized and God speaks from heaven and says &#8220;This is my son, whom I love, with Him I am well pleased&#8221; &#8211; God is speaking to THE Son in this scripture, but we are also the sons and daughters of God&#8230; adopted in to the family.  More than anything I just need to know that I belong to Him,  He loves me, and is pleased with me&#8230;</p>
<p>This is so special to me because God said this <em>BEFORE </em>Jesus had done <em>any </em>miracles or even been tempted in the desert!  God didn&#8217;t say it based on Jesus&#8217; <em>performance </em>thus far.  I&#8217;m realizing that my struggle is seated there&#8230; in the <em>performance</em> mode of trying to do so much (often too much) unconsciously in hopes of being rewarded with a &#8216;well done&#8217; from people.  However the reality is that God knew me before I was born and called me for his purpose.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t know if all this is making sense, but I&#8217;m being renewed in my thinking on a lot of stuff and it&#8217;s kinda heavy right now. I&#8217;ve had a long battle for freedom in some areas and after 10 years of struggle come to realize some things that aren&#8217;t so pleasant, fun, or easy to manage.</p>
<p>I do way too much.  I&#8217;m working on it, and with this latest realization I need to really look at why I&#8217;m so dang busy &#8212; what am I really looking for in all that I do.</p>
<p>Ok&#8230; I&#8217;m being majorly reflective here&#8230;but that&#8217;s what I tend to do&#8230; <img src='http://darrencalhoun.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' />   I will be writing more on this as my journey continues.<br />
Love<br />
Darren</p>
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